Daniel Goleman

Born: March 7, 1946

Occupation: Author

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Shipping by sea produces 1/60 the emissions of shipping by air and about 1/5 that of trucking.

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people's emotions are rarely put into words , far more often they are expressed through other cues. the key to intuiting another's feelings is in the ability to read nonverbal channels , tone of voice...

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Compassion begins with attention.

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Positive work environments outperform negative work environments.

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For the High Achievers, Studying Gave Them The Pleasing, Absorbing Challenge of Flow Percent of the Hours They Spent as It.

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What really matters for success, character, happiness and life long achievements is a definite set of emotional skills - your EQ - not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional...

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Emotional self-awareness is the building block of the next fundamental emotional intelligence: being able to shake off a bad mood.

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Comparing the three domains, I found that for jobs of all kinds, emotional competencies were twice as prevalent among distinguishing competencies as were technical skills and purely cognitive abilities...

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Women, on average, tend to be more aware of their emotions, show more empathy, and are more adept interpersonally. Men on the other hand, are more self-confident and optimistic, adapt more easily, and...

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There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse.

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Whoever has the mind to fight has broken his connection with the universe. If you try to dominate people you are already defeated. We study how to resolve conflict, not how to start it.

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Research shows that for jobs of all kinds, emotional intelligence is twice as important an ingredient of outstanding performance as cognitive ability and technical skill combined.

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The task of worrying is to come up with positive solutions for life's perils by anticipating dangers before they arise. If we are preoccupied by worries, we have that must less attention to expend on figuring...

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People who are optimistic see a failure as due to something that can be changed so that they can succeed next time around, while pessimists take the blame for the failure, ascribing it to some characteristic...

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Happy, calm children learn best

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Like secondhand smoke, the leakage of emotions can make a bystander an innocent casualty of someone else's toxic state.

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For better or worse, intelligence can come to nothing when emotions hold sway.

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Our passions, when well exercised, have wisdom; they guide our thinking, our values, our survival.

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The book is a dialogue between The Dalai Lama and a group of scientists about how we can better handle our destructive emotions and how to overcome them.

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Evolutionary theory holds that our ability to sense when we should be suspicious has been every bit as essential for human survival as our capacity for trust and cooperation.

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The Harvard Business Review recently had an article called 'The Human Moment,' about how to make real contact with a person at work: ... The fundamental thing you have to do is turn off your BlackBerry,...

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There is a newly coined word in the English language for the moment when the person we're with whips out their BlackBerry or answers that cell phone, and all of a sudden we don't exist. The word is 'pizzled':...

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The near cousin of optimism is hope: knowing the steps needed to get to a goal and having the energy to pursue those steps. It is a primal motivating force, and its absence is paralyzing.

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A leader tuned out of his internal world will be rudderless; one blind to the world of others will be clueless; those indifferent to the larger systems within which they operate will be blindsided.

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If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no...

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The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain.

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Mindful meditation has been discovered to foster the ability to inhibit those very quick emotional impulses.

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The other thing is that if you rely solely on medication to manage depression or anxiety, for example, you have done nothing to train the mind, so that when you come off the medication, you are just as...

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A little girl who finds a puzzle frustrating might ask her busy mother (or teacher) for help. The child gets one message if her mother expresses clear pleasure at the request and quite another if mommy...

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Once shoppers become empowered, we will facilitate industries thinking in completely new terms; for example, making products that are totally biodegradable.

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When I say manage emotions, I only mean the really distressing, incapacitating emotions. Feeling emotions is what makes life rich. You need your passions.

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There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional empathy... They're controlled by different parts of the brain.

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People tend to become more emotionally intelligent as they age and mature.

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A prerequisite to empathy is simply paying attention to the person in pain.

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Motivation aside, if people get better at these life skills, everyone benefits: The brain doesn't distinguish between being a more empathic manager and a more empathic father.

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Societies can be sunk by the weight of buried ugliness.

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Buying phosphate-free soap allows you to say, 'My detergent doesn't have the harsh chemicals others do.' The question is, how are you washing with it? The very worst thing for the Earth about detergent...

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But once you are in that field, emotional intelligence emerges as a much stronger predictor of who will be most successful, because it is how we handle ourselves in our relationships that determines how...

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I think the smartest thing for people to do to manage very distressing emotions is to take a medication if it helps, but don't do only that. You also need to train your mind.

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My hope was that organizations would start including this range of skills in their training programs - in other words, offer an adult education in social and emotional intelligence.

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Making choices that improve things for all of us on the planet is an act of compassion, a simple act we can do any time we go shopping.

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Teachers need to be comfortable talking about feelings.

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Well, any effort to maximize your potential and ability is a good thing.

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Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages.

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I would say that IQ is the strongest predictor of which field you can get into and hold a job in, whether you can be an accountant, lawyer or nurse, for example.

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If you do a practice and train your attention to hover in the present, then you will build the internal capacity to do that as needed - at will and voluntarily.

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The amygdala in the emotional center sees and hears everything that occurs to us instantaneously and is the trigger point for the fight or flight response.

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However, I began meditating at about that time and have continued on and off over the years.

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I don't think focus is in itself ever a bad thing. But focus of the wrong kind, or managed poorly, can be.

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If you are doing mindfulness meditation, you are doing it with your ability to attend to the moment.

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In a high-IQ job pool, soft skills like discipline, drive and empathy mark those who emerge as outstanding.

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One way to boost our will power and focus is to manage our distractions instead of letting them manage us.

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Scheduling down time as part of your routine is hard but worth it, personally, even professionally.

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Smart phones and social media expand our universe. We can connect with others or collect information easier and faster than ever.

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The basic premise that children must learn about emotions is that all feelings are okay to have; however, only some reactions are okay.

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The more socially intelligent you are, the happier and more robust and more enjoyable your relationships will be.

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Western business people often don't get the importance of establishing human relationships.

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While there I began to study the Asian religions as theories of mind.

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Emotional 'literacy' implies an expanded responsibility for schools in helping to socialize children. This daunting task requires two major changes: that teachers go beyond their traditional mission and...

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When I went on to write my next book, Working With Emotional Intelligence, I wanted to make a business case that the best performers were those people strong in these skills.

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When it comes to exploring the mind in the framework of cognitive neuroscience, the maximal yield of data comes from integrating what a person experiences - the first person - with what the measurements...

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As a freshman in college, I was having a lot of trouble adjusting. I took a meditation class to handle anxiety. It really helped. Then as a grad student at Harvard, I was awarded a pre-doctoral traveling...

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Brain studies of mental workouts in which you sustain a single, chosen focus show that the more you detach from what's distracting you and refocus on what you should be paying attention to, the stronger...

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But there has also been a notable increase in recent years of these applications by a much wider slice of psychotherapists - far greater interest than ever before.

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Companies in the East put a lot more emphasis on human relationships, while those from the West focus on the product, the bottom line. Westerners appear to have more of a need for achievement, while in...

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Every morning, I go off to a small studio behind my house to write. I try to ignore all email and phone calls until lunchtime. Then I launch into the sometimes frantic busy-ness of a tightly scheduled...

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Some children naturally have more cognitive control than others, and in all kids this essential skill is being compromised by the usual suspects: smartphones, TV, etc. But there are many ways that adults...

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The industrial processes in use today were developed at a time when no one had to consider what the environmental impact was. Who cared? But making ecological concerns matter to a company's bottom line...

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We need to re-create boundaries. When you carry a digital gadget that creates a virtual link to the office, you need to create a virtual boundary that didn't exist before.

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We're exposed and carry in our bodies multiple chemicals, and we have to understand how they interact. Both how they individually interact and the thousands of effects they can produce when they interact...

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Whenever we feel stressed out, that's a signal that our brain is pumping out stress hormones. If sustained over months and years, those hormones can ruin our health and make us a nervous wreck.

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Self-absorption in all its forms kills empathy, let alone compassion. When we focus on ourselves, our world contracts as our problems and preoccupations loom large. But when we focus on others, our world...

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Attention is a little-noticed and underrated mental asset.

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Want a happier, more content life? I highly recommend the down-to-earth methods you'll find in 'Mindfulness.' Professor Mark Williams and Dr Danny Penman have teamed up to give us scientifically grounded...

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In a very real sense we have two minds, one that thinks and one that feels

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Feelings are self-justifying, with a set of perceptions and "proofs" all their own.

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Our emotional mind will harness the rational mind to its purposes, for our feelings and reactions-- rationalizations-- justifying them in terms of the present moment, without realizing the influence of...

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Reducing the economic gap may be impossible without also addressing the gap in empathy.

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Empathy represents the foundation skill for all the social competencies important for work.

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Empathic, emotionally intelligent work environments have a good track record of increasing creativity, improving problem solving and raising productivity.

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Empathetic people are superb at recognizing and meeting the needs of clients, customers, or subordinates. They seem approachable, wanting to hear what people have to say. They listen carefully, picking...

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Simple inattention kills empathy, let alone compassion. So the first step in compassion is to notice the other's need. It all begins with the simple act of attention.

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Leaders with empathy do more than sympathize with people around them: they use their knowledge to improve their companies in subtle, but important ways.

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Fear, in evolution, has a special prominence: perhaps more than any other emotion it is crucial for survival.

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Emotional self-control-- delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness- underlies accomplishment of every sort

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Directing attention toward where it needs to go is a primal task of leadership.

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Daydreaming incubates creative discovery.

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Threats to our standing in the eyes of others are remarkably potent biologically, almost as powerful as those to our very survival.

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Even though a high IQ is no guarantee of prosperity, prestige, or happiness in life, our schools and our culture fixate on academic abilities, ignoring the emotional intelligence that also matters immensely...

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Sheree Conrad and Michael Milburn bring a much-needed sanity to that confusing and unruly terrain, our sexual lives/

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Remember, empathy need not lead to sympathetically giving in to the other side’s demands—knowing how someone feels does not mean agreeing with them.

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The best leaders don’t know just one style of leadership—they’re skilled at several, and have the flexibility to switch between styles as the circumstances dictate.

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Educators, long disturbed by schoolchildren's lagging scores in math and reading, are realizing there is a different and more alarming deficiency: emotional literacy. And while laudable efforts are being...

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When we focus on others, our world expands.

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At last, psychology gets serious about glee, fun, and happiness. Martin Seligman has given us a gift-a practical map for the perennial quest for a flourishing life.

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As much as 80% of adult "success" comes from EQ.

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True compassion means not only feeling another's pain but also being moved to help relieve it.

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The act of compassion begins with full attention, just as rapport does. You have to really see the person. If you see the person, then naturally, empathy arises. If you tune into the other person, you...

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When the eyes of a woman that a man finds attractive look directly at him, his brain secretes the pleasure-inducing chemical dopamine - but not when she looks elsewhere.

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But the rational mind usually doesn't decide what emotions we "should" have !

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