Laurie Helgoe

Born: December 10, 1960

Occupation: Psychologist

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Laurie Helgoe

Though introverts are drained by interaction, we can take immense pleasure in watching the scene around us.

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Introverts keep their best stuff inside—that is, until it is ready. And this drives extroverts crazy! The explanation for the introvert’s behavior—and there must be an explanation for this behavior,...

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This is why it is sometimes hard for introverts to find words: we really hate to compromise, and words are always a compromise.

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Introvert conversations are like jazz, where each player gets to solo for a nice stretch before the other player comes in and does his solo. And like jazz, once we get going, we can play all night. Extrovert...

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Reading is like travel, allowing you to exit your own life for a bit, and to come back with a renewed, even inspired, perspective.

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Introverts paradoxically pull away from culture and create culture.

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Your nature is not the problem. The problem is that you have become alienated from your nature -- from your power source.

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Introverts are collectors of thoughts, and solitude is where the collection is curated and rearranged to make sense of the present and future.

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A shy kid might look longingly at other kids playing in the schoolyard, afraid and unsure about how to approach them, but an introvert is perfectly content on her own.

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Extroverts want us to have fun, because they assume we want what they want. And sometimes we do. But "fun" itself is a "bright" word, the kind of word that comes with flashing lights and an exclamation...

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Introverts tend to internalize problems. In other words, we place the source of problems within and blame ourselves. Though introverts may also externalize and see others as the problem, it's more convenient...

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When an introvert cares about someone, she also wants contact, not so much to keep up with the events of the other person's life, but to keep up with what's inside: the evolution of ideas, values, thoughts,...

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I am rarely bored alone; I am often bored in groups and crowds.

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A good rule of thumb is that any environment that consistently leaves you feeling bad about who you are is the wrong environment.

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Let's clear one thing up: Introverts do not hate small talk because we dislike people. We hate small talk because we hate the barrier it creates between people.

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Introvert conversations are like jazz. Each player gets to solo for a nice stretch before the other player comes in and does his solo.

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Whatever kind of introvert you are, some people will find you 'too much' in some ways and 'not enough' in others.

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As an introvert, you can be your own best friend or your worst enemy. The good news is we generally like our own company, a quality that extroverts often envy. We find comfort in solitude and know how...

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An introvert may feel asocial when pressured to go to a party that doesn't interest her. But for her, the event does not promise meaningful interaction. In fact, she knows that the party will leave her...

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Quiet is might. Solitude is strength. Introversion is power.

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For the introvert, conversation can be a very limited forum for self expression. When a song moves you, a writer gets you or a theory enlightens you, you and its creator are connecting in a realm beyond...

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Isn't it refreshing to know that what comes perfectly natural for you is your greatest strength? Your power is in your nature. You may not think it's a big deal that you can spend hours immersed in something...

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