Mark Epstein

Born: 1953

Occupation: Author

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Mark Epstein

If aspects of the person remain undigested-cut off, denied, projected, rejected, indulged, or otherwise unassimilated-they become the points around which the core forces of greed, hatred and delusion attach...

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Anxiety and desire are two, often conflicting, orientations to the unknown. Both are tilted toward the future. Desire implies a willingness, or a need, to engage this unknown, while anxiety suggests a...

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Meditation did not relieve me of my anxiety so much as flesh it out. It took my anxious response to the world, about which I felt a lot of confusion and shame, and let me understand it more completely....

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There is a yearning that is as spiritual as it is sensual. Even when it degenerates into addiction, there is something salvageable from the original impulse that can only be described as sacred. Something...

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Trauma never goes away completely, it changes perhaps, softens some with time, but never completely goes away.

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Buddhism teaches us that happiness does not come from any kind of acquisitiveness, be it material or psychological. Happiness comes from letting go. In Buddhism, the impenetrable, separate, and individuated...

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When we seek happiness through accumulation, either outside of ourselves-from other people, relationships, or material goods-or from our own self-development, we are missing the essential point. In either...

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It is exceedingly difficult to maintain a sense of absence without turning that absence into some kind of presence

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The willingness to face traumas - be they large, small, primitive or fresh - is the key to healing from them. They may never disappear in the way we think they should, but maybe they don’t need to. Trauma...

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Desire is a teacher: When we immerse ourselves in it without guilt, shame, or clinging, it can show us something special about our own minds that allows us to embrace life fully.

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Meditation is not a means of forgetting the ego; it is a method of using the ego to observe and tame its own manifestations.

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Uncovering your real desires can be terrifying. It can also set you spectacularly free.

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It’s one of my theories that when people give you advice, they’re really just talking to themselves in the past.

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If things do not exist as fixed, independent entities, then how can they die? Our notion of death as the sudden expiration of that which was once so real starts to unwind. If things do not exist in their...

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To be free, to come to terms with our lives, we have to have a direct experience of ourselves as we really are, warts and all.

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To free desire from the tendency to cling, we have to be willing to stumble over ourselves.

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In building a path through the self to the far shore of awareness, we have to carefully pick our way through our own wilderness. If we can put our minds into a place of surrender, we will have an easier...

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The picture we present to ourselves of who we think we ought to be obscures who we really are.

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Depressed people think they know themselves, but maybe they only know depression.

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We are looking for a way to feel more real, but we do not realize that to feel more real we have to push ourselves further into the unknown.

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We are what we think, having become what we thought.

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As my Buddhist teachers have shown me, wisdom emerges in the space around words as much as from language itself.

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While the primary function of formal Buddhist meditation is to create the possibility of the experience of "being," my work as a therapist has shown me that the demands of intimate life can be just as...

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