Henry Cloud quote

"Everything has seasons, and we have to be able to recognize when something's time has passed and be able to move into the next season. Everything that is alive requires pruning as well, which is a great metaphor for endings."

Henry Cloud

Born: 1956

Occupation: Clinical psychologist

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Leave your pride, ego, and narcissism somewhere else. Reactions from those parts of you will reinforce your children's most primitive fears.

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The sad thing is that many of us come to Christ because we are sinners, and then spend the rest of our lives trying to pretend that we are not!

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Leadership is not taken, it is given. People give leadership to those that they trust. They allow people that they trust to have influence over their lives.

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When we ask we are owning our needs. Asking for love, comfort or understanding is a transaction between two people. You are saying: I have a need. It's not your problem. It's not your responsibility. You...

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Just as we leave the effects of our work behind in results, we leave the effects of our interactions with people in their hearts, minds, and souls.

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The Bible is clear about two principles: (1) We always need to forgive, but (2) we don’t always achieve reconciliation. Forgiveness is something that we do in our hearts; we release someone from a debt...

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The human heart will seek to be known, understood, and connected with above all else. If you do not connect, the ones you care about will find someone who will.

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The mature person meets the demands of life, while the immature person demands that life meet her demands.

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Dating is about finding out who you are and who others are. If you show up in a masquerade outfit, neither is going to happen.

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You aren't alive if you aren't in need.

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Love can only exist where freedom and responsibility are operating.

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The amount of truth a relationship can handle is proportional to the amount of perceived love that's present.

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To get greater than 100% return on a growth step, give up defensiveness. Defensiveness stifles performance, and destroys relationships.

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The natural response to evaluation is to feel judged. We have to mature to a place where we respond to it with gratitude, and love feedback.

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Be Hard on the issue, Soft on the person.

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Anger is frustration at the fact that we are not God, and do not have control over reality.

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Encourage literally came from "in courage." The courage is put "into" you from outside. Our character and abilities grow through internalizing from others what we do not possess in ourselves.

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Good pain is pain in the service of a purpose. Bad pain is pain endured because we are resisting a needed growth step.

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When you encourage someone, it literally changes their brain chemistry to be able to perform... sends fuel to the brain.

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