Laurie Helgoe quote

"As an introvert, you can be your own best friend or your worst enemy. The good news is we generally like our own company, a quality that extroverts often envy. We find comfort in solitude and know how to soothe ourselves."

Laurie Helgoe

Born: December 10, 1960

Occupation: Psychologist

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